I saw two counselors for career guidance and research on new trends in the workforce. But oh, did they differ in their approaches! I'll say I prefer to be shown the horizon and not boxes----especially if they are check-off list boxes.
There is difference between being pushed and motivated.
One of my counselors---the "happy" counselor---gave me career options and guided me on "my own path."
The "happy" counselor was enthusiastic about presenting new ideas, opportunities, and information about my career plans. She reviewed my portfolio, and gave "spur of the moment" tips. Even when I knew of her suggestions, she was very encouraging. When I left, I came home to find a voicemail from her with new opportunities.
The other counselor---the "pushy" counselor--presented me with many new resources, but they were rigid cookie-cutter resources that applied to her "GTD list" and not my life. Again, I knew about many of her suggestions. Tried them. Many didn't work for me, but this counselor wanted me to try again for hercheck-off list's sake. And yes, she called me to see if I was doing what she told me to do!
One thing I don't like is being pushed.
Inspire me. Empower me. Motivate me. But don't push me.
I love it when people are passionate about their work, but if your work is about providing a service to others---let it be about others.
I am a human being, not your check-off to-do list!
I am a human being, not a process or a system!
And once your services become about what "you did" to get the job done, then it's time for you to re-evaluate your intentions.
I followed the suggestions of both "happy" and "pushy" counselors---even though some of their advice did not apply to my life. Eventually, I ended my relationship with the "pushy" counselor.
It's OK to ask for advice. Cast your net out wide. But know every "find" or "answer" isn't a treasure. Sometimes it's a lead or a dead end.

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